Want to quit your job and can’t? Try these 5 strategies to help you cope.
You can’t always pick up and move on the moment you realize it’s the right thing to do. In fact, it’s rare a decision to quit can be acted on quickly. It takes time and preparation. So, if you know it’s time to quit but doing so right now simply isn’t possible, try the following:
1. Emotionally disconnect yourself.
Remember: It’s just work, it does not define YOU. Many people— including myself —think of work as an extension of their identity. If you’re in a job you hate, you can start to hate yourself. Now is the time to put the job in perspective. You are not your job. Your job is simply providing you with something—whatever that thing is that makes quitting impossible for the time being. Focus on that and break the emotional connection. Vow not to take problems and issues home with you.
2. Find a friend.
Happiness has a lot to do with relationships. Even if you’re ready to leave your job, you can still enjoy the social side of work. Find a person—just one is all it takes—who gets you. Having a friend at work makes every day easier.
3. Get away from it all.
Don’t just hang around in an environment that feels like it’s slowly draining you. Get out and breathe some fresh air. Take lunch out of the office, go on walks throughout the day, or just take a few minutes to sit outside instead of stewing in the frustration that surrounds you. The more perspective you can get, the more you’ll be able to deal with the current situation.
4. Eat the elephant one bite at a time.
It might not be feasible to quit right now, but circumstances will eventually change. Start saving money, learn new skills, broaden your network and make connections. Prepare yourself for a time when you can leave this job and find something more fulfilling…because it will happen sooner or later.
5. Stress less.
I call this “managing the inner game” and truly, this is the most critical point. Believe me, once you know quitting is what you’d like to do but it’s just not possible at the moment, your stress will increase. This is a natural result of feeling trapped. Every instinct in your body is screaming, “FIGHT OR FLIGHT!” It’s also a result of feeling stagnant. You want to move forward and yet, due to circumstances beyond your control, you’re standing still. Don’t ignore these emotions; manage them. Actively work to get your stress under control so you don’t end up making some irrational, emotional decision you’ll later regret.
These coping strategies will help you manage the situation until you are ready to make a change on your terms.